Take Pity On Wendy

August 31, 2009 · Comments

Over the past 12hrs I’ve had quite a few people alerting me to this article written by Wendy Hargreaves in the Herald Sun yesterday.  It’s a great day for fishing Wendy, but the fish aren’t biting. Not here anyway.

One of the things I love about the internet and our culture is that anyone, including me, can express their opinions to thousands of people about topics you know very little about.  If credentials were a requirement I wouldn’t be sitting here right now. Apparently you don’t need to be  “in the know” or have a little thing called “experience” to write an opinion column for a newspaper like the Herald Sun.

When confronted with deep insecurities it’s human nature to lash out and project those feelings onto others.  It’s a very good reflection on one’s own self-esteem.  The level of a person’s reaction to hearing this harsh reality is usually proportional to how true it is.  It didn’t take much of a search on the internet to understand where your insecurities reside Wendy:

I’m a yo-yo dieter from way back. Down 10 kilos, then up 12. Down five kilos, then up seven. It’s a constant battle.

I’ve tried all sorts of diets over the years and I’ve lost plenty of weight – from my wallet.

I admit it. I’ve been stupid. I parted with all that cash and I’m still overweight.

I don’t bring this up to be childish or stoop to your level in your Lycra Losers article Wendy.  I bring this up to understand the motivation behind your article.  Judging by the level of maturity displayed I’ll treat your article as if it were written by an 8 year old.  What 8 year old means by  “arrogant road hogs, neon nuff nuffs, lycra losers, poncey prats, complete tossers” or “It’s not that I hate them. How could I hate somebody that stupid?“  is that you admire us, wish to be like us, and even like us.

So, next time you get angry with a trio of wobbly backsides blocking the road in all their fluorescent glory, don’t get angry.

Have pity on these poor deluded souls.

Don’t have pity on us Wendy.  We’ll be just fine.  We’re passionate about life and cycling has a great deal to do with that.  We’re fit and healthy and have an outlet for our energy.   However, I do pity you Wendy.  I’m not being facetious by saying that having a problem with your weight and self esteem is a serious matter.  It’s an issue that will chip away at you for your whole life until you get it under control.

I’ve tried them all: Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, Light and Easy, Atkins, Ketosystem and Body for Life. You name it, I’ve had a crack.

Each of the diets worked and gave me inspiration, but they were never long-term solutions. In the end I had to come up with my plan – exercising for most days and cutting out starchy carbohydrates after dark. Spuds, pasta and sugar at night are my downfall, it seems.

It’s hard work, being healthy. And it’s boring. I often fall off the wagon.

Doing a physical activity that you’re passionate about such as cycling does not make it seem like hard work.  In fact, it’s pretty damn enjoyable and the hard work is deeply satisfying.  There is no such thing as falling off the wagon.  Plus we can eat whatever we like without any guilt whatsoever.  Everyone except for you seems to be enjoying themselves and unfortunately you’re missing the party.  Instead you’re spending your weekends writing blogs about how much of a better place the world will be if middle-aged men wore plain baggy cycling clothing.  How unfortunate for you.

It all comes down to commitment. When you make a healthy choice, you feel better and your self-esteem grows.

Instead of lashing out on the way cyclists in lycra trying to get a rise out of everyone I will personally invite you to go for a ride and show you first hand how great of a sport it is.  I’m not talking about one of your rides that you use to get to and from work.   I’m talking about a “what you missed this morning” type of ride.  We’ll both pull a sickie and have some fun.  A ride where we’re out on the open road, the sun is rising through the trees and there’s not a car in sight.  Even better when you’re sharing it with your mates.

If you could get past your sentiment “Think about it fellas. You’re not Lance Armstrong. You’re not even an athlete. You’re a dolt” you could be one of those fortunate ones who has conquered their battle with weightloss and live a long enjoyable life.  Sure you might look like an dolt at first, but eventually you’ll stop caring about what others think and you’ll be out there loving it. Despite what you might think, those “audible groans of disgust at my clear lack of cycling style” are in your own head and lay within your own insecurities.

I know it’s a lot easier for me to hop on a bike than it is for you.  I promise we’ll go as slow or as fast as you want and it won’t hurt a bit.  You can even wear whatever you like and I won’t judge you on it.  I guarantee you’ll be hooked and perhaps you’ll find your way through those crash diet fads and never need to worry about your weight again.

Deal?

  • dale
    job well done wade, i saw you, viddy, lisa and wendy on friday, but was struggling up the narrow part from the round about..... i saw how much she seemed to be enjoying the downhill and decided to leave things be.
    a brilliant idea expertly carried out, and while her attitude hasnt changed completely....it seems to have been tempered with a touch of humanity and some understanding... great stuff
  • Wade - awesome response - GOLD - especially "I promise we’ll go as slow or as fast as you want and it won’t hurt a bit."

    Well done.
  • Her latest diatribe has scored all of three comments thus far.

    Speaks volumes.
  • dale
    take care, wade, and choose your words carefully, as she will use anthing to get a story....i for one am not even going to dignify her piffle with a response this time or the next, as i will not be purchsing the sunday edition as my own protest, the same for the online edition,
    she obviously craves the attention that notoriety brings to fill some void in her life, give her no attention or a decline in readership, then she becomes irrelevant, and perhaps redundant to the paper.
    and todays paper is just tomorrows compost
  • Hi Wade,
    Fantastic response!

    I've just read her follow up article published today. She's still full of hate for cyclists.

    Can you just point out to her that cyclists will be abused, hurt and possibly killed when people use her moronic comments as further justification to continue treating cyclists badly.
    This year along I've been buzzed by cars coming way too close, have cars rev their engines just as they come up alongside, abuse and have garbage thrown at me and even been spat on. I'm a small lady on a bike and I keep thinking if they do this to me then imagine what they must do to kids out there riding?
    Her article will only increase this happening and it's sad to see that she doesn't even seem to take that into account.
    Have fun on the ride with her, can only hope she is nicer and smarter in person that she comes across as a writer.
  • Louisa
    I too would be in for a ride with Wendy if she takes you up on her offer. I'll even wear unflattering Lycra ;)
  • dale
    thanks wade for the brilliant piece, i did forward this to both the editor and wendy, i have had a response and look forward to hearing about the said event......if u want another participent, just holler


    dale
  • Steve F
    So i hear you have a response?!!! Do tell more.

    Are we all invited??
  • J
    Beautiful, I love your response Wade... just beautiful!
  • steve
    shes a smart troll. cyclist are die hard passionate about all things cycling. insult them and prepare for mega click thru. someone needs to post the text of her article some place else so she doesnt get the traffic shes after. this is a bloody steak! dont bite.
  • vickster
    Wade, I think your response was very reasonable. But I question why others are so worked up about the bad rap for cyclists but then choose to respond by saying even nastier things about the journalist. How is slagging her off going to encourage her to consider your point of view?
  • I agree Vickster however I think some of the responses are exactly what she was hoping for. The last thing I'm going to do is censor the comments like the Herald Sun is doing. I've tried to make comments in Wendy's article but they will not get through (and they are very polite).
  • brycerider
    Sigh - cyclists posting messages about nasty press on their own forums and agreeing amongst themselves - all that matters is $$$$ which means that the crappy anti (insert your cause/sport/passion here) articles gets eyeballs on the newsprint or online and generates debate so the advertisements get noticed.

    Do something useful - go ride your bike.
  • Mick & Shane
    Wade bring Wendy along to Subito Cycles in Edithvale. We'll supply her with a nice Electra cruiser for the ride. With a nice wide gel seat.

    this blog is pandemic.
  • FS
    Wendy Hargreaves' velo critique is not uncommon to the anger cyclist's often recieve in my local newspaper, namely the Bayside Leader. As a resident of the municpality that follows the contours of this side of Port Phillip Bay and a regular cyclist of Beach Road, there are articles and opinions abound - mainly critical of cyclist use of this thoroughfare. These articles often appear when reporters have difficulty finding newsworthy topics and selectively choose to inflame the prejudise and ire of readers, and, very little else. Hargreaves' bile and vitriol about Melbourne's unique cycling culture smacks of pure ignorance and is nothing new, if not repetative tripe.
    Get a life Bitch or find some other group to defecate on. Better still - get a bike.
  • Justin
    I have to say that as far a smear pieces go, this was p#ss-weak. It raised the odd smile, but as to that white hot rage that can come from a truly bigoted piece, it was absent. I suspect that Wendy was just ticking the boxes, waiting for the end of the day, when she could get back into her Lampre kit to commute home on her "hybrid".

    Good on her.
  • For all you slightly middle-aged blokes who were left doubting their masculinity by Wendys clichéd crap, let me just respond as a early middle-aged lass I don't give a flying proverbial what you choose to attire yourself in. At the very least, you're out there having a lash & having fun in the process. And the opportunity for some of us occasionally to have a perve. Discreetly, that is.

    Last night when I was scripting todays YarraBUG Radio program I gave all of 10 seconds consideration towards commenting upon this piffle, then dropped it. On a serious note though, this boorish type of 'colour piece' unfortunately provides a particular News Limited readership demographic yet another pisspoor excuse to further marginalise and ridicule people who choose to ride bicycles. (with added bonus of increasing the click-through rate on the online edition, d'oh!) Which isn't a difficult subtext to spot, and as Wade has pointed out, she obviously hasn't scored the reaction as intended.

    Which is a good thing.
  • Come on Wendy, give it a go. I mean with a little desire and watching your gob cycling might help you lose some kegs - I lost 30 and reckon less typin and more cyclin might be the answer. For what it's worth Wade - if Wendy is up for it, the lattes are on us
  • At first when I read Wendy's article I was outraged... then I became totally inspired. Inspired by the men that Wendy is writing about... and if that happens to be you (reading this comment) - I'd personally like to thank YOU!

    I think it's totally admirable that you get out on your bike irrespective of age and physique and do what what you do because you love it. I'm also on the chunky side and used that as an excuse not to ride - perhaps I was suffering a mild, less aggressive form of Wendyhargreavitis...?

    So today I got out my mum's 1980-something vintage 'Apollo Deluxe' ladies bike and pedaled to my 2pm appointment. I didn't care what I looked like, I didn't care what anybody thought... I just loved being on my mum's old bike and had so much fun riding it!

    Thank you Wade for your beautiful response to Wendy's attack ... bloody marvelous!
  • Good on ya Grace!
  • Simon
    Just to prove my point about the negativity. I got hit by a car a couple of weeks ago when it failed to stop at a Stop Sign. When I told my Brother he said " Oh well everyone hates a cyclist" And he loves me!!!!!
  • Simon
    I just can't read the story again or read anymore comments. Its making me feel so sick! As if the negativity towards us is not bad enough, she's just fueling the fire. Anyone got a knight's suit I can borrow and wear on my ride this weekend, I bet some driver out there will try and have a go.
    Tuning off for awhile! Looking forward to the next topic.
  • Drew
    Hey, I just got the Event Guide for the Kinglake Ride and the Sunday Herald Sun is a Sponsor – anyone got any ideas?
  • Brad
    Well spotted - has to be a great PR opp for cyclingtips in this....
  • vidman
    Ideas for the newspaper? Yeah.. toilet paper...
  • Drew
    I've written to the editor of the HS with my thoughts (and intentions of not buying the paper anymore) and now I'm torn between just letting go and wishing her all the best with her saddle sores, and sending the story to EVERY cycling blog and website I can think of around the world - along with old wobbly thighs' and the editors email addresses and sitting back and imagining the response in their inboxes. The real problem there is that it would actually be promoting her. Decisions, decisions.

    Oh, and to her husband – sorry dude, so, so sorry – my wife's great and loves that I'm getting toned and healthy...
  • Anonymous
    now why would we want to save their marriage when we have a ready made member of the lycra brigade. The funny thing would be if you were riding with him and as you came up behind two female cyclists he tells you that the one on the right is his mistress.
  • With all that negativity to her husband's road riding kit she is heading straight for a divorce. Its a shame because she will be blaming spandex for the rest of her life, rather than making positive changes. Maybe if you intervene in time and show her what road riding is actually about, you will save their marriage...

    Go Wade, Go!
  • The Rabbit
    Another reason the "middle-aged warriors who sit on their well-fed butts all week, raking in cash to buy their next $10,000 carbon fibre Italian import" - apparently the intelligent, eductated and productive end of the social demographic - will not be relying on the Herald Sun for their news needs. Her missive is clearly aimed not at the target above as she suggests, but to stir up the general ignorant scumbag consituency. Unfortunately there is already enough ignorance, hate, attitude, aggression and risk on the roads towards cyclists and adding fuel to the fire for absolutely no good reason really angers me.
  • That brings about an interesting point....I wonder how many already agressive drivers have read her article and will go out of their way to target cyclist?
    This being the case, can she be blamed if anything does happen??
  • The Rabbit
    The irony is that if cycling were more actively promoted and seen as a viable alternative form of transport for the masses it would alleviate the congestion that triggers road rage in the first place. Motorists who engage in anti-cycling behaviour are only doing themselves a disservice in the long term by keeping more people in cars out of fear. It would also in turn challenge the obesity and pollution epidemics of the our cities.
  • slyrider
    Appropriate response to trash journalism. Makes you wonder whether "news" paper editors have a standard list of "let's stimulate copy" subjects that they run through when circulation is lagging.
    Very correct to pity this sad person who not only spreads their vile vitriol upon the public but ladles it out upon their family. I find it hard to be compassionate for a person who demonstrates no compassion for others who are inspired and motivated.
    Keep on riding everyone and let's leave this sorry individual behind us to wallow in misery.. ;-)
  • JK
    Hmm, Not biting, eh??
    I'd say she's is getting a bit of a response, which was her intention. You've probably given her a pay rise....
  • I wouldn't say that many are taking the bate the way she intended.
  • Che Guevara
    We just need to make up for it by boycotting the Herald Sun. We can live without AFL news & updates for a couple of months?
  • Tommy P
    Hmm. CT, so how many more undesrving 'hits' have we given Wendy's article and the Herald Sun? I bet the advertisers will be happy. I also bet she gets to keep her job just a bit longer! Although, who cares when we got to slag off a fat chick all morning... Life's simple pleasures.
  • Twoeee
    I wrote a post and was censored, too many correct facts
  • amanda
    Wendy is actually quite a lovely person. But has a track record of accepting jobs that are out of her depth. A couple of years ago she left her job with The Age's Green Guide and agreed to produce a radio breakfast program. Completely unqualified and sadly did a paltry job of it. Perhaps Wendy should stick with what she's good at and be more satisfied with her life.
  • Swampy
    You mean like staying at home, cleaning, cooking and trying to keep her hubby happy...

    ... then again, maybe the cooking thing wouldn't be a grand idea - the food might be gone by the time he gets home.
  • Dr. Freud
    Shame Wendy didn't cut it in radio - sounds like she has the perfect dimensions for the medium.
  • baudman
    bravo!
  • Marchello
    I used to be heavily into rock climbing and a few years ago (ok about 15) a journalist wrote an article in the Age about how dangerous it was to be rock climbing and all the usual clichés that went along with it.

    A friend invited the journo on a climbing trip and he agreed. The next week he wrote a very informative and well written article about the joys of rock climbing.

    I hope Wendy agrees. I'll even buy the coffee and muffins!

    Well done CT.
  • Anonymous
    I hope she does take you up on the offer. I'll follow you both in my big SUV and run her down the first chance I get!

    Hell hath no fury like a failed dieter!
  • Nice response. I've always wondered how best to respond to yet another Herald Sun article written purely to get a rise. Write on the Hun website and it validates the post. Ignore and it seems like cyclists are happy to take this type of crap.
  • Jeff tee
    The media are like arms dealers.......they don't care what side wins as long as they make money.
    Here in South Australia, especially around Tour Down Under time, they go from one side of the pendulum to the other. It's win/win for them.
  • Have Bike will travel
    One thing I have learnt from riding is just let everything goes to the keeper. My Si Phu (wise enlighten grand master from the mountain top - Pikey) told me this important lesson. So I shall go and activate some of my brain cells and read Wade's blog!
  • Paul
    Great response.
  • LOL - Nice post Wade. She was trying to get a reaction and it looks like she got one alright.

    She's really showing us how to dominate on Twitter too - HA! - why would she bother?

    Typical Journo - Her article tells me two things...

    1. Journo's and newspapers are soon to be a thing of the past. She's a classic example of how poor the Herald Suns employment policy and standards are.

    2. How cretins with totally chaotic lives can bullshit their way into a decent position with a well reputed company. Something is fundamentally wrong there.

    Fergz
  • b
    Its always worth remembering, the whole purpose of the Herald Sun, and *every other newspaper* is to make money for their owners and/or shareholders by selling advertising. That's it. Nothing more.

    Some papers choose to do that by being informative and insightful so that intelligent and well-read people will enjoy reading them because they feel they are getting some useful information - and by reading the paper they consume the advertising.

    Some other papers - I think you know which ones - choose to do this by stirring up anger, frustration, sympathy, outrage, racisim and other powerful emotions in their readers. That makes people come back and read your paper every day because they want that emotional high. This is somewhat easier since a) the readers are not as well educated, and b) you don't need any "facts" to write about.

    So obviously Wendy's article is trying to do the latter.
  • Steve
    Speaking of shit-stirring, here's the latest effort from VicPolice:

    "Cyclists can run but they can't hide."

    Obviously employing people of the calibre of Wendy Hargreaves to write headlines.

    "Victoria Police is starting a three day bike operation tomorrow after statistics reveal there has been a ten per cent rise in the number of cyclists taken to hospital in the Melbourne CBD."

    Do the statistics reveal an increase in accidents or an increase in the reporting of accidents? And any word on the cause perhaps? And is this surprising given that the time frame for measurement is six months, thus its winter, the roads are wet, it gets darker earlier, and accidents would therefore more likely.

    "A further audit of bicycle collisions this year shows the main contributing factor to each of these collisions was that the cyclists had not been seen or heard coming."

    So the cyclists didn't necessarily cause the accidents? In the past three weeks I've had encounters with four people: one walked into a bike lane (with friends), two walked out from between parked cars (one on her phone, the other texting) and the fourth opened a car door. And because they didn't hear or see me coming, I deserve to be the target of a Police operation. Assuming I'm not recovering in hospital where I'm neither running nor hiding...
  • Jarrod
    Same!

    Just because i rode through an intersection on a green light and got hit by a truck who didn't see me with my flashing light at 4.15pm, why should i be the target of a police campaign!!??

    It's already cost me $1600 in new bike & medical expenses, while the guy p1ssed off home to India with only a slap on the wrist.

    Maybe if the Police did their job properly, they would have got the correct details and done him for working on a student visa, and his boss for paying him cash off the record!!
  • mash
    Totally agree, Who cares about what she says - she is just some attention seeking hack.

    What worries me is crap like that from the cops.....

    http://www.vicpolicenews.com.au/more-news/1400-...

    First off the coppers need a better subby because the titile sucks in all sorts of ways -No we cyclists don't Run, that is triathletes you are talking about. Furthermore we obviously can hide - very well according to research (see below)*

    So

    There is an increase in the number of accidents involving cyclists.

    AND research suggests that the main contributing factor is SMIDSY* syndrome (sorry mate I did not see you)

    The cops want to do something about it as they acknowledge cyclists are vulnerable road users and are concerned about the trauma rate.

    GREAT

    What do they do ?

    Sensible - Run a campaign to educate car drivers as to the rights of bike riders as road users and the presence of bikes ? I'm thinking UK's "LOOK BIKE"

    Unlikely - outlaw those stupid freakin sat nav things that idiots mount on windscreens and stare at rather than the road ?

    Hopeful - Start booking more moronic mobile phone using distracted drivers ?

    Possible - Encourage cyclists to wear bright colours, santa suits and yellow fluro jackets ?


    NOPE

    CLAMP DOWN - Start ranting on about following road rules and using a bell


    What the Fvuck ? Maybe they should have gotten BV involved, oh, hang on....
  • Mr T
    Yeah, this is crap ! There's more accidents because there's more cyclists (e.g. targets for the idiots driving cars texting or talking on phones etc) around. I guess it was my fault I didn't use my ESP and predict the girl almost dooring me on Friday afternoon. Damn I'm stupid !!
  • Have Bike will travel
    "I pity Da fool"
  • Hollywood
    Wendy the $#%^ from the Hearld Scum. The most bias pro Liberal news paper around. Quality fwits like Andrew Bolt and Robin Riley. I refuse to read it.
    Read the Fin Review instead and get on RFE, SEY and JAL.
  • Christian
    Does she owe Wendys ice cream outlets ?
  • ppp
    i totally agree with wendy - i've been cycling/racing for a few years now and i think cyclists need to check themselves ... the kit does look ridiculous.
  • Lachy
    zzzzzzzzzz
  • Anonymous
    I bet ppp has one of those really cool silky gAyFL tops insted.
  • Shit-stirrer indeed! Nice retort Wade - reminds me of what my club's president did with Todd "They planted ther drugs on me" McKenney from Sydney radio - he was popping off about cyclists and John Buckton invited him on a ride, and then spoke on the radiuo with Todd and Sonia about cycling, the misperceptions and how we can all get along. Link here: http://twurl.nl/7evozk

    There seems to be a pretty regular cycle in newspapers of the pro and anti cycling articles, but interestingly, the pro-cycling articles are usually written in a proper journalistic fashion, with oppposing viewpoints and without bias, sensationalism or hyperbole.

    The anti-cycling articles, however, are usually opinion pieces, written in an abuse laden, insulting and juvenile fashion. Devoid of any intelligent or rational reasoning, more akin to an angry rant.

    Being provocative can be productive, and I'm all for debate and opposing viewpoints - I love it - but stupid, sensationalist rubbish aimed at making peoples blood boil are just s a waste of everyone's time.
  • Brad
    The only remotely surprising thing I found in Wendy's article was that she is married. Go figure....
  • Tommy P
    Her husband is probably one of those guys that gets up at 5am each morning to go riding... That would give a woman insecurities methinks..
  • Brad
    Or he's some kind of emasculated man servant
  • Anonymous
    Or else he wants to get away from her each morning before she wakes up!
  • Anonymous
    What a sad, bitter person. Struggling with a weight problem obviously hasn't done her self esteem any good and she's taking it out on us. I bet she dreams of being fit and looking svelte in some tight lycra! Any psych's out there? This woman is a basket case!
  • S
    Have you made this available to Wendy and the Sun? Just wondering.
  • nah...I'm sure someone will though.
  • Mr Hargreaves
    Dear Herald-Sun editors. I would like to submit an article about overweight, middle aged women that wear tights and jog in my neighborhood. They also frequent my gymnasium in their, overly tight, exercise pants and quite frankly, they look foolish as they go through the motions of some exercise program that will never do them any good.
    Since you published this piece, I'm sure you'll publish mine.
    Many thanks
  • Rick
    Well responded to Wade. You illustrated within your response what great journalism is about - facts! You actually made me feel sorry for Wendy through smart, witty, inspirational and passionate writing. Tip of the cap to you dear lad!
  • It's obvious this was written first and foremost to get a reaction out of people. Judging by the comments on the Herald Sun website look like she's sucked people in. if you click her name in my first paragraph it'll bring you to her twitter page. Note her short bio says: Journo and general shit-stirrer.

    If you look at her previous tweets it looks like she's tried this before as well.

    What a way to go through life...
  • Tony R
    Well it is the Herald Sun ( the Sunday at that ) having worked for this paper a few years ago, this article does not surprise me, it's a boy's club paper that will do pretty much anything to sell papers,the standard of the journalist's can be ( to say the least ) not the best at times, cough cough.
    What is even more surprising is that quite a few of the staff at this paper, (you guessed it) are serious cyclists, and the Herald Sun has supported cycling at a major level, whats that cycling race????
    Maybe it's time for cyclists on mass to NOT support this paper, by NOT buying it, and phoning,e-mailing the editor to let them know what you think of this journalist.
    It is times like this that we as cyclists can make our voice heard loud and clear.
  • Dave
    Brilliant retort!
  • Wow. Wade that was really quite inspirational.
    I feel that you kept your cool when it would have been easy to blow up and sling it all back.
    The artle....(yours) rams home why I ride and get up at 5am every day......I love this sh#t!!
    Wade that was great!
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